Is your business enchanting? Are you?
Do you play enough in your business; do you imagine; do you get funky or are you all left-brained about your business and your life?
This week I was fortunate enough to get playful and imaginative while participating in the Enchant Challenge with Kris Katsuko Oster and it was ahhhh-mazing!
My final challenge is to write about my greatest transformation – and that is going to be very difficult to do. To just pick one that is.
I learned so much in just a few short days, but I think the biggest take-away for me was getting in touch with my shadow side and the realization that she’s not your typical shadow. For me, since the loss of my mom when I was just 18 years old, I think I learned to live comfortably in my shadow-self. What most of you would consider your shadow, was my living, walking, breathing experience for about 15 years.
After my mom passed, I felt as if there was a sweet little girl living inside me who was afraid to come out.
It took quite a few years, but eventually I realized in order to live authentically, I needed to allow my softer side to see the light of day more often.
In doing so, I also became less honest. I became less forth-coming with my truth and began to shut down that part of me; that part I had walked in so fully. Because I was afraid of offending anyone. I was afraid of wounding anyone emotionally with what can be considered brutal, blunt honesty.
Day 2 of this enchanted week brought me face-to-face with that softer, gentler side of me who I had already determined to bring out to play. She is a waif-like fairy who is either hiding them, or doesn’t have her wings. She’s very shy and ultra-sensitive. She’s beautiful and through the exercise I learned a lot about her and a lot about myself.
In the exercise, we were instructed to ask our shadow its name. My little fairy girl is named Amy – which is also the name I gave my superhero self (an exercise we embarked on for Day 3). In choosing the name of my superhero self, I did a little research to help me decide whether it was also a good name for my superhero. Amy means “loving,” so indeed, it was a fit.
Here is what I else I discovered about Amy:
- Your first name of Amy has made you a friendly, approachable, and generous person.
- Generally you are good-natured, though at times you can be blunt and sarcastic.
- As you are naturally talkative, you find it easy to meet and make friends with many people.
- This name inclines you to be sympathetic and generous to those in difficult or unfortunate circumstances.
- You can be firm, positive, and independent in your own ideas and in reaching your own decisions, yet when it comes to taking action or following things through to completion, you often need encouragement.
- You respond quickly to kind words or any appreciation shown you.
- There are artistic, creative abilities in this name that you could express through music or singing, or, in a practical way, through sewing or interior decorating.
- You enjoy freedom from monotony and are stimulated by unexpected opportunities for meeting people, entertaining, or pursuing activities of a carefree nature.
- In your work, you find it difficult to be neat and orderly.
- You rarely plan things ahead of time, or follow a routine.
- Emotion and feeling, the desire to be carefree, friendly, and happy, are the driving forces in your being, rather than shrewdness, ambition, and material success.
This description fits me in most every way except finding it difficult to be neat and orderly in my work. Here’s what I found about Merry:
- The name of Merry creates an overly-sensitive nature which causes you to sense and feel far more than you can understand or put into words.
- You have a deep, artistic, and creative side which shows through a love for music and literature.
- Writing is a more natural mode of expression for your deeper thoughts and feelings than the spoken word.
- You have an ability to concentrate and work intently on anything which holds your interest.
- However, you prefer to avoid routine, monotony, and menial tasks.
- You enjoy the out-of-doors and find your greatest peace and relaxation from the beauty and harmony of nature.
- You prefer to limit your friendships and associations to those who share your interests and appreciate your quiet, refined ways.
- Others often find it difficult to understand you.
- Your feelings tend to build up within you and, if you cannot release them through a creative, constructive channel, you could suffer with frustration, moods, and much inner turmoil.
The two of these, together paint a brilliant picture of my superhero self, as well as addressing the issue of dampening my truth. One of my greatest gifts lies in being able to quickly see the bigger picture. Sometimes that picture isn’t pretty, but the final outcome given some right decision-making is beautiful.
So my challenge and the transformation I’m currently embracing with grace and ease, is to be more forthright. My friends have assured me that although I can be blunt and not so diplomatic at times, it always comes through with great love, which tends to take any sting out of it.
The Enchanting Challenge has been nothing short of enchanting for me. I look forward to sharing more of it with you in the coming weeks – and more of my beautiful, fairy self.
What do you think of this? Do you embrace your shadow self, or do you hide her away in shame? I’d love to hear your feedback on this.
With much love,